To Be Or Not To Be

Most of us know this famous quote by Shakespeare. His character in Hamlet utters these words of despair and hopelessness. Shakespeare was well aware of the psyche of people and the burning questions that come to their minds.

Shakespeare has influenced the world in many ways. He was a profound personality. Many of you must have read his plays, poems. But why we are discussing it today?

This thought still crosses many people’s mind in the midst of difficult situations.

Today is 10th Oct – World Mental Health Day. This is an opportunity to raise awareness of Mental Health Issues. This year’s theme is Suicide prevention. Almost 8,00,000 people take their own life and many more attempt suicide.

There are various reasons for suicide. Some of them are:

  1. Failure in exam
  2. Failure in relationship
  3. Abuse
  4. Mistakes made by them
  5. Feeling worthless
  6. Feeling depressed
  7. Uncontrollable circumstances
  8. Illness
  9. Stress…….

This list is endless. But what can we do about it?

The first thing that we need to understand that the person is going through a lot of turmoil. Life seems totally messy and death seems  the closure to all problems. Those who want to help in this mission, prepare yourself for helping the people around you. Following are some pointers which will help you help others:

  • Observe and listen: Suicidal people give warnings directly or indirectly to people around them. Observe the people around you. Listen to them and what they are saying and implying. This will only happen if you will be present fully and not distracted.
  • Give Hope: Always give hope to people facing problems. There are so many negative people around us. You don’t need to be one of them.
  • Show Empathy: Showing empathy is one of the greatest ways to show you care.
  • Acceptance:  Suicide is not mental illness as such but mentally ill people are prone to it. Our social acceptance of mental illness can reduce this.
  • Addiction: Alcohol or other addiction can aggravate urge to end the life. Stay away from addiction. Keep an eye on people whose drinking habits have increased drastically.
  • Communication: If you are a parent, always keep open communication with your kids. Discuss your failures with them too, not just  your successes. They need to know  that its OK to fail and that it is not the  end of the world.

Those who are going through difficult times, remember the following things:

  • You are not alone. Although you think you are, there are so many people who would love to help you. Calling for help is not  a weakness. Find a support group to discuss your problem with.
  • Situations are not life. Life is much a larger phenomenon than difficult situation. There are many good things waiting for you. Just be patient with yourself. Believe me, you will thank yourself for that later.
  • Failure in one area of your life doesn’t mean you are failure. It just means that you need to try different method to achieve success. Many successful people talk about their failure proudly.
  • Instead of focussing on your problem, write down your problem and focus your brain on a possible solution. Whatever you give attention to, grows.
  • My FB friend (Kanchan Dixit, NLP practitioner) has an amazing tip about how to deal when feeling worthless. She says to always keep track of good things (however small) about you. Your first prize,  a kind word from someone,  your small achievements,  etc. Whenever you feel bad about yourself, read those. They will lift your mood and make you ready to face challenges.  Develop your support system by yourself.
  • Relax your mind. Most of the answers comes when you are relaxed.
    • Life is not fair. But still it’s beautiful.
  • The beauty of hitting rock bottom is that there is only one way left UP.
    • So, let’s bounce back.

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